As counterintuitive as this may seem, Summer 2017 has been wonderful, my happiest since Alzheimer’s knocked at our door thirteen years ago. That’s in spite of, maybe even more so because our country and world is in, let’s admit it, chaos. It’s darn hard these days to stay aboard that happy train. Even Joy the Baker, my effervescent blogging pal from NOLA, took up the how-to-do-happy-better theme this week.
“We all need a little spark of a reminder sometimes,” she wrote. “ A little confetti in the air. A little whipped cream on top. A little something-something.”
We can’t expect our end game to always be handsprings and high fives but, Loyal Readers, don’t we deserve the best Life we can muster? Now as you know, I love lists. My days evolve around my to-do list. So you might expect I have an on-going “Tweaks” list which I pull out when myself needs tweaking. If yourself needs a tweak or two, I’m willing to share. If you’re doing mighty fine (and, lucky you), just skip down to the recipes for my to-die-for Peach Upside-Down Cake topped with homemade Buttermilk Ice Cream.
My Golden Happy Tweaks
For more of my adult years than I care to admit, I believed it possible to be joyful only when the stars lined up perfectly in my life and my family’s world. I always truly believed if one tried hard enough…well, you get it. I know, I know, what universe did I live in? When we stumbled into something that couldn’t be fixed and could only end with a bad result, I hit a wall. (Memo to the World: Walls are bad.)
More than a decade ago there weren’t many tools, books or avenues to help caregivers be caregivers. I stumbled my way up the learning curve but often didn’t do it well. Throughout those early years I just survived. Then a psychologist suggested that ‘pain was inevitable, but suffering, always optional’ so I traded suffering and sadness for laughter and a smile. Since I was slowly losing my side kick and best friend, I also became my own best friend. I still am. A Golden Tweak: Greet each day with a smile, laugh out loud and treat yourself as wonderfully as you do your spouse, partner or best friend.
Now I’m not asking you to deny or normalize the challenges we face personally and publicly but recognize your limits. That doesn’t mean I don’t stay engaged and honor my values and beliefs. I gravitate towards positive and optimistic people, hanging with friends who are energized by their passions, ideas and activities. I walk the walk, quietly doing my best, but I no longer talk the talk. Stress and hurt are not my pals. A Golden Tweak: Avoid what drags you down. Learn to say no. Don’t be a martyr.
If you’ve committed to greeting the day with a smile, why not get a head start by going to bed happy. Turn off your electronics by 8:30-9pm. Have an engaging book or two nearby or watch a fun series. Mozart in the Jungle on Amazon Prime was my summer headliner. Or, just talk, have a conversation, or call a friend. A Golden Tweak: Get good sleep. No, 4-5 hours is not enough.
And, of course, stay physically active and eat well. If a slice of Peach Upside-Down Cake topped with homemade Buttermilk Ice Cream doesn’t lighten your load then you aren’t half-trying. That’s what Cook the Book Friday is dishing up this week. Here are the recipes and my tips.
COOK the BOOK FRIDAYS
GLACE AU LAIT, HUILE D’OLIVE ET FLEUR DE SEL by David Lebovitz, My Paris Kitchen
No egg yolks. No tempering. The corn syrup (or, honey) makes it smooth and creamy for days.
Makes about 1 quart
INGREDIENTS:
1 3/4 cup heavy cream
1/2 cup granulated sugar
3 tablespoons light corn syrup (substitute honey, if you wish)
1 1/4 cup buttermilk
Fruity, extra virgin olive oil
Flaky sea salt
DIRECTIONS:
1. In a small saucepan, warm the cream over low heat with the sugar and corn syrup, stirring occasionally, until the sugar is completely dissolved. Chill the mixture in a bowl thoroughly, at least 8 hours or overnight.
2. Stir the buttermilk into the chilled sweetened cream. Freeze according to your manufacturer’s ice cream maker instructions. Once churned (about 30-50 minutes), transfer the ice cream to a freezer-safe container a few hours, overnight, or until firm enough to scoop.
3. Just before serving, scoop the ice cream into bowls, using a chilled ice cream scoop. Drizzle each serving with olive oil and sprinkle with a flurry of sea salt or use a topping of your choice. Since I was topping my cake with this ice cream I didn’t put anything on it.
PEACH UPSIDE-DOWN CAKE by Laura of Tutti Dolci
(This recipe appealed to me because I love cooking with my 10” cast-iron skillet. If you don’t have cast iron, use any ovenproof container.)
INGREDIENTS
TOPPING:
3 Tbsp unsalted butter
1/2 cup brown sugar (light or dark)
1/2 tsp vanilla extract
2 medium peaches, peeled and thinly sliced
CAKE:
3/4 cup sugar
1 1/2 cups flour (If in altitude, use high-altitude flour.)
1/2 tsp cinnamon
1/2 tsp baking powder
1/2 tsp baking soda
1/4 tsp salt
1 large egg, at room temperature
1/2 cup low-fat buttermilk, at room temperature
1/2 cup plain fat-free Greek yogurt, at room temperature
5 Tbsp unsalted butter, melted and slightly cooled
2 tsp vanilla extract
INSTRUCTIONS:
1. Preheat oven to 350°F.
2. Grease a seasoned 10-inch cast iron skillet. Combine butter and brown sugar in skillet over medium heat, stirring constantly, until butter has melted and mixture is smooth. Remove from heat and stir in vanilla. Top with peaches and set the skillet aside.
3. For the cake, whisk together sugar, flour, cinnamon, baking powder, baking soda, and salt in a medium bowl. Make a well in the center of the mixture.
4. Whisk together egg, buttermilk, yogurt, melted butter, and vanilla in a small bowl; add to flour mixture and stir just until combined.
5. Dollop batter evenly over peach layer and smooth with a spatula. Bake for 30 minutes, until cake springs back to the touch and a toothpick inserted in the center comes out with a few crumbs attached.
6. Remove from oven and let the cake rest for 5 minutes in the skillet, until any juices have stopped bubbling. Use a thin spatula to loosen cake from skillet and carefully invert onto a cake stand or serving plate.
7. Let cool to slightly warm before serving.
I had no idea about the Chunnel…
Following you on FB I know how engaged you have been in wonderful activities. But this happiness thing is good news. You might as well be happy. Just so long as you are not drinking the kool-aid.
I want to make the buttermilk ice cream!
Hi Mary out in Kerala India. Love your insightful post and great positive living tips! Travel too also energizes the soul. Your cooking class looks great, along with this weeks choice dishes! Hugs, Peggy
You are an inspiration, Mary! I know it’s been a long, tough road, but you always seem to make your way—surrounded by true friends and supportive family. I appreciate your sage advice—need to work on the sleep!!! Love your peach upside down cake—if I didn’t have a chocolate sheet cake in the fridge, I’d be making it today!! xoxo
Hi Mary from Clear Lake,
As always, I am inspired by your happy words.
Your peach upside down cake method takes me back to France and to apple tatin.
And I have perfectly ripe peaches waiting for the upside down cake. Yum!
Marysue
Thanks for all of your inspiring tips. What a beautiful picture of you. Love your tip about suffering.
Wow! When I saw the word Chunnel I thought for an instant you might be on your way to Paris from London. Glad to know you’re still in Aspen–for now at least–and cooking away.
Love your thoughts, dear friend. What great advice for us all during these stressful times. The recipes look great. I might actually try to make the cake, gluten free. Have a happy weekend!
Mary, your advice is some good stuff! Yes, we might as well choose to be happy! And always good to remind ourselves!!!
Speaking of good stuff! I loved this ice cream, but with peach upside down cake!! What a great combination (though Liz could have some with that chocolate cake if hers, I bet it would be great too!).
Happy to know you are happy! I know that there is too much “other stuff”, but I am also always heartened by all of the beauty to be found – in so many humans and of course otherwise!!!
If I can get some nice peaches, I will make that!!!
Good afternoon, Sunshine! Kuala Lumpur is experiencing the battles of the gods this pas two weeks, heavy rains with thunder and lighting (an disrupted power supply). A lovely post to enjoy!
A chilled ice cream scoop? Weii? I used a scoop dipped in hot water this moring… going to chill it later tonight! Have a lovely weekend Mary!
Mary you are such an inspiration to everyone. Loved this post. We all need tweaks to happy these days. And this ice cream? Yes. With chocolate sauce it was divine!
While I was looking up the ice cream that CTBF was dishing up this week, I got something so sweet, different and inspiring: the golden tweak to greet yourself each day with a smile. And with some homemade ice cream. Have a happy day, Mary!
As usual a great post Mary. Your ice cream looks good with that peach upside down cake, and the cake looks so nice and moist. I wasn’t too impressed with the olive oil and salt, but I think I will add some fruit to the leftovers and see how that works. As for making the ice cream, this could not have been easier.
You, my friend, always make me smile. Though I wasn’t a fan of this ice cream (I feel like the only one), I am a fan of your tweaks. I will work to apply those to my days. It should help my general outlook these days. So much stuff that’s out of my control. I’ll increase my smiling and continue to control my little world (where I am generally happy as long as I don’t read the news).
Your cooking class looks like fun! Hopefully you have some new delicious recipes to enjoy at home. xo
I enjoyed your Golden Tweaks. Great advice, similar to how I try to live my life, though I have never defined it in words. I am happy you had a happy summer.